Not that 2017 is officially over everyone is pushing publish on their New Years Resolution posts, myself included. Last year I attempted to pick a word or mantra for the year but as with most people, nothing came of it. I don’t even remember the word I picked and I have no desire to go back and look. 2017 was a shitty year that I don’t really want to reflect much on.
With that being said, 2018 is here and with that brings new beginnings. I’ve mentioned in a previous post that I was reading The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte. I’ve since finished the book and workbook. As suggested by LaPorte, I have picked 5 desired feelings for 2018.
I have planned out trackable, specific goals that I plan to break down into bite-size pieces that center around the feelings I want to manifest this year. My goals will not be 12-month goals but rather 3-month goals. The 5 feelings I picked will stay the same for all 12 months but every 3 months the goals will change depending on if I accomplished any or if life changes, as it so often does.
Livelihood & Lifestyle
LaPorte breaks down your life into 5 different categories, the first being livelihood and lifestyle. This category encompasses career, money, work, home, style, travel and possessions just to name a few. I had a long list of feelings for this category just because I felt like this category covered a lot of areas of life both big and small. After reading the list I felt that the most important feeling, the one I wanted to feel the most, was the first word I wrote.
I choose productive because I love the feeling I get from getting things done and because I know I could be doing way more than I have been. I’ve often found it hard to be productive because I wasn’t passionate about what I was doing. In the past 2 months, I have really reflected on the past few years of my life and where my productivity got sidetracked.
I want to refocus myself on being productive in my home, my schooling, my family and my passions.
Body & Wellness
The second category is body and wellness which is focusing on healing, fitness, food, mental health as well as rest and relaxation. I also had a long list for this category as I’m not very happy with my body, my diet or my overall well-being. I’m sure many moms can attest to not taking care of themselves the way they should. I am 100% that mom. My kids, house, pet, husband, etc come first. This year I need to remind myself more that if I don’t care for myself I can’t properly care for others.
In 2018 I want to focus on getting and being healthy. That means eating better, exercising more, seeing my doctor and dentist more regularly and carving out time for myself.
Creativity & Learning
I’m a firm believer that everyone is creative in their way and that learning never ends unless you stop being open to it. This category is all about being artistic, self-expression, interests, education and hobbies. My list of feelings was actually short for this category. I don’t have a ton of hobbies but I do have a few and I feel like I get to spend a reasonable amount of time of those hobbies.
I want to find more things that interest me and hold my attention. I have quite a few hobbies that I can easily do from home but I’d like to branch out and try new interesting things that I have been putting off out of fear or insecurity.
Relationships & Society
Romance, friendship, family, collaboration and community are just a few things that can fall under relationships and society. This category really showed me that I am a true Scandinavian socialist, not that I ever doubted myself.
I often feel like people don’t view or treat me as their equal. People will often not be honest with me because they feel like I need protecting or that I’m fragile or people will treat me poorly because they think I’m spoiled or beneath them in some way. I’m no better or worse, strong or weak than any other person. For too long I’ve let people cross my boundaries on how they treat me. If people can’t treat me as an equal than those people can’t be around me.
Essence & Spirituality
Cue the new age, high vibe, crystal wearing, essential oils for this next category. It’s all about soul, inner self, truth, intuition, and faith. I’m going to get really real with you, I’m agnostic and slightly lean towards Buddhism/Shinto. God to me is a moot point in my opinion. I honestly don’t want to debate anyone about it because if believing in a higher power works for you than you do you, boo. My opinions and viewpoints made this category particularly hard but at the same time easy. Mostly because I only could think of 2 feelings which was the hard part but choosing between the 2 was very easy.
I just want to feel content. Content with my life, with myself, with the things I’m doing and where my life is going. Although this category didn’t really speak to me the word content really did. I want to be happy, peaceful and satisfied as much as I can.
There you have it. In 2018 I’m going to strive to be productive, healthy, interested, equal and content. Going forward I’ll update you on my goals and how I’m doing and feeling. Please update me on how you’re doing. Do you have any new years resolutions? Do you have a word or mantra? What is it? Let me know in the comments.