It’s that time again. I am doing another 21-day meditation challenge with Oprah and Deepak. Feel free to follow along on my journey as I Become What I Believe.
Getting Past Obstacles and Boundaries
1) Reflecting on the core belief “I am safe and trusting,” write down the feelings that keep you from fully adopting it. For example, these could be feelings of anxiety, self-doubt, uncertainty in relationships, seeing the world as a dangerous place, or fear about money.
I think the biggest thing that keeps me from believing that I am safe and trusting is my relationships with the people closest to me. Not just my husband but my parents as well. Growing up in an abusive home basically teaches you to not trust the people who are supposed to love and care for you the most. I do not feel safe with my parents, nor do I trust them. It’s a hard belief to break since I’ve had this belief since as long as I can remember.
2) Reflect on how little these insecure feelings matter or even exist in your meditation, where you have found a place of peace, quiet, and security.
I don’t feel like these matter when I meditate because I’m not actively doing anything to trigger the feelings. I’m sitting alone, in a room, doing nothing. Why would I feel insecure during that time? It’s easy to find peace, quiet and security when I am by myself. I guess I need to learn how to translate that when I am not by myself.
3) Write down specific ways to get closer to the true self’s feeling of security and trust. For example, by centering yourself, decreasing the stress around you, not joining in anxious or stressful encounters, walking away from situations where you feel insecure, or finding a confidante who is a model of security and trust.
I think finding time to center myself has helped and that I should make more time to do that.
I most definitely need to decrease the stress around me and I think being more organized and structured in my daily routine would help a lot.
I think that I have these weird daily rituals that actually make me anxious and I need to stop doing them. They clearly aren’t helping me and they don’t make me feel good so I should stop doing them. The hard part is braking the habit of doing them.