I am participating in another Deepak and Oprah Meditation Experience. This meditation experience is about finding deeper connections and understanding with people and oneself. Please follow along on my journey to healthier and happier life.
Connecting to the World
Reflect on your state of awareness. In your journal, give yourself a grade from one to ten on each of the following qualities: peace, enjoyment, inner calm, and sense of wellbeing. Don’t judge your grade or try to manipulate it. Just do the exercise as objectively as possible, simply based on where you are at this moment. Wherever you gave yourself a low score, write down next to it what lessons you can apply from this Meditation Experience to improve your grade.
Inner Calm- 4
Sense of Wellbeing- 4
I feel like all of these are low scores so I’m just going to write everything down here. I feel like for all of these that I just need to get out into the world and do something. I’m not feeling fulfilled in these areas because I’m not doing anything to fulfill them. I sit in my tiny house, take care of my family and write on this blog. That’s it. I need to get out a do things to fulfill myself.
Reflect on how to shift your motivation in the direction of being inspired. Inspiration is the greatest and most lasting motivator. But oftentimes pressure is mistaken for motivation, for example when people are driven by a sense of duty, daily demands on time, money, work, promotions, family obligations, self-criticism, the need to succeed, guilt, habit, etc. Journal about how these current forms of pressure masquerading as motivation manifest in your life.
This one is easy, when I feel these things I shut down. I’ll go weeks without writing on this blog, I won’t leave my house except to get my kids from school, housework goes out the window. It’s like a complete shut down of everything, life just stops for me. This is what I call depression. I don’t ever feel motivated by anything described, I just shut down.
Now, for each of these current forms of pressure, list a deeper inspiration you can use to replace it, such as love, compassion, intelligence, creativity, truth, beauty, evolution, strength, wisdom, and peace. What would this look like? For instance, instead of feeling like you have to try to be nice to your difficult brother-in-law at family gatherings simply so your spouse doesn’t get upset with you, look at your next meeting as an opportunity. Use it to discover something meaningful about his life that you can connect with at a heart level, regardless of the differences you may have on the surface.
My first reaction was to throw my hands up and say “I DON’T KNOW!” but I think I just need to reach out to others more. I’m a very shy, timid person who has an ironclad defense mechanism to keep others away, It’s a product of my childhood. What I need to do is let my guard down and open up to others. Thanksgiving in right around the corner which gives me a great opportunity to better get to know my husbands extended family. I’ve known most of these people for 7 years but haven’t made a big enough effort to get to know them in-depth. This is my chance to open up.