I am participating in another Deepak and Oprah Meditation Experience. This meditation experience is about finding deeper connections and understanding with people and oneself. Please follow along on my journey to healthier and happier life.
Seva: The Connection of Joyful Service
Think about the ways that Seva, or service, is being extended to you by others. Journal about those who have sacrificed to serve you. What was their attitude? Examples can come from any part of your world, from immediate family to social services to those who sacrifice for their country and the common good. Which of these are the most positive in your mind.
My in-laws have done a lot for myself and my family. When my husband was out of work, not once but twice, they kept us a float. They pay for my youngest son’s preschool to make sure he can be in the program he needs to be in and they helped us with the deposit on our new house. Anytime we need something they are there to help us.
Their attitude about it is sometime understanding and other times irked. I think they are tired of bailing us out and want us to be 100% independent financially and I agree with them 100%. I think they blame me for a lot of our financial issues because I don’t work outside the home or bring in an income. I don’t feel like that is entirely fair. My husband makes an income most people would dream for and should be plenty for us to live on and have savings. The fact that we can’t seem to manage our money is more the problem than me not working.
I appreciate everything my in-laws have done for us and continue to do out of love for their son and grandchildren. I know that I don’t do enough to let them know that I really do appreciate them for more than just their money.
Now Consider how you can be part of the same positive service you have benefitted from. How can you give back, even in small ways, to experience the personal benefits that comes from being of service? These could be charitable and volunteer work, helping the needy, assisting with outreach to the homeless, mentoring poor and disadvantaged children, ect.
Well, I can’t really give money away and although I want to payback my in-laws and plan to do so in the future, I don’t think that really qualifies being of service.
I have always had a soft spot for children in need. I’m pretty sure this comes from my childhood where I felt like I needed someone to step in and stand up for me when I couldn’t stand up for myself. I’m not sure how I can be of help to disadvantaged children but it’s something that I am going to look into.
Journal about one selfless thing you’ve done in the past that made you feel very good inside because you gave of yourself, reinforcing this joy of giving back to others. As you move through your day, consider how you can be of service again – any instance of “Let me help” will do. What are a few places that immediately come to mind where you can be of assistance?
I can’t think of a particular time where I was selfless, not because I haven’t been but because all the times I have been I feel like I’m just doing what needs to be done. I’ve paid for my friends meals when they didn’t have money or drove over to their house so they could use my AAA to get their car out of a ditch. None of that makes me feel like I was of service to them. I was just doing what friends and family do. When someone needs help and I’m available I help and in return if/when I need help I hope they will be there for me.
In the short-term I should start asking my husband everyday what I can do to help him. I do a lot around the house and with the kids but I’m not necessarily doing things that he wants done.