What was the most memorable part of this past month?
Settling into our new house and city. Painting Dessa’s room. Exploring the state of Minnesota and all it has to offer.
What were the three biggest lessons you’ve learned in this past month?
1) Bloom where you are planted. I’ve moved a lot in my life, especially in the last decade. From Wisconsin to Minnesota, Minnesota to Alaska. Alaska to Washington and back to Minnesota. What I haven’t done in the past was trying to turn where I was into my home. I was never happy in Alaska or really Seattle if I’m being honest. But now that I have my own house and am in Minnesota for the long haul I want to really make this my home. That means taking advantage of what I have here at home. In July we’ve gone to movies, playgrounds, splash pads and state parks. So far, I feel more at home here than anywhere else.
2) Don’t rush into anything. In July I’ve dealt with more salespeople than I knew existed. As an introvert, I pretty much hate this but it’s a necessary evil. With that being said, I’ve been pressured to spend a lot of money and have gotten really good at saying no. I’ve rushed into things in the past with unsavory outcomes and I’m not going to do that anymore. If I’m going to have to spend the next 10 to 15 years sitting on a couch I’m going to make sure that I love that couch and a sales person’s commission is not my problem.
3) You gotta be in or you gotta be out. There are some things in life you have to either fully invest in or not invest at all. There is no gray area. There are no if, and or buts. Either you’re in or you’re out and you have to make up your mind.
How are you different between this past month and the month before it?
I’m less stressed but not totally stress-free. I feel a lot better about our decision to move and feel more settled. I also have more motivation to get up and do things which feels really nice.
What or who are you especially grateful for this past month?
I’m grateful for being able to unpack slowly and having my own house. It has been really nice to be able to paint walls or get rid of things that I don’t want in my house. I’m grateful that I no longer feel like a guest in a rental property.
Name three things you can improve on next month. What are concrete actions you can take to work towards these improvements?
1) More routine. Our move and Nick’s position change at work has totally killed any routine we once had. It also doesn’t help that it’s summer and the kids don’t have school. Now there is no structure and we are trying to figure out what our new routine will look like. I’m sure once school starts it will be easier but in August we have to make and stick to a new routine.
2) Eating out less. My Mint app has told me almost every day for the last 2 weeks that my “eating out” budget has exceeded its amount. It’s, again, been very difficult to plan meals and cook at home. We’ve been so absorbed in unpacking, cleaning, keep the kids entertained, home repair/updates, etc. that I haven’t been focusing enough on cooking. Every night we are home in August I plan on cooking. NO EATING OUT! I’m making some exception for certain days since I know we’ll be traveling so I’m sure we’ll eat out on those trips but that’s it!
3) Budget. I know in August I’m going to have to make some really big purchases, like furnish my entire house. That means, couches, coffee tables, TVs and things I probably haven’t even thought about. The idea of doing this is incredibly stressful but I have to adult and make sure we budget appropriately and only get what we can afford. That means keeping a close eye on our finances and not overspending.
From 1-10, how do you feel overall about this past month?
I’d give July an 8. It’s been a stressful month but a really good month. Fixing up our house has been exciting and exploring our new city and the surrounding area has really made Minnesota feel like home. There have been ups and downs but this month has been mostly ups so I’m happy 🙂